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November 24, 2017

Links I'm Loving // November, 2017.


Heeeello, everyone!

Here we are again with another Links I'm Loving. In this one we are gonna talk about Black Friday deals, decluttering and minimalism (because I'm obsessed) and, surprisingly, dry shampoos. I love deals and I'm all about saving money, but I think (specially doing the holidays and all the shopping madness) we need to take a step back and really think about what we're doing so we don't get caught up on the spending and get in debt or bring clutter to our lives. The links to today are all about getting the deals but being smart about it. Big companies already have tons of money, so let's not just aimlessly give them our hard earned money, ok? Let's get to the links!


Best Dry Shampoos of 2017 // So, reviews.com sent me this link cause they thought this might be something I would be interested in.. and they were right. I love the idea of dry shampoos but I've never found the perfect one and these reviews were really helpful. If you're a dry shampoo fan or if you're still on the look for the perfect one, I would highly recommend checking it out! 



Minimalist Gift Guide // I loooove Heather's videos. She doesn't focus only on minimalism but her minimalist videos are my favorite because she's real (and a little sarcastic too, which I love). My family always asks what do you want for Christmas. They love giving presents but they're not wasteful either - they will get what you "asked for" rather than getting a generic gift, which is awesome. So, I take this opportunity to really go for it and say exactly what I want - like last year I asked for concert tickets, this year I'm asking for Cirque Du Soleil tickets.  So, if you're a minimalist or you're trying to be more minimal, I highly recommend checking out this video.



How To Declutter For The Holidays // I sent this link to my mom the second I found it. My mom (just like most people in her generation) is a hoarder. Ok, maybe not a hoarder but she does keep a ton of stuff just for the sake of it. She's definitely not a minimalist, she's more of a "I'm just gonna keep it because someday I will have grandchildren and maybe they'll need this" kind of person. If you have this type of person in your life, maybe send this link to them. It's important to pay attention to clutter, specially during this time of the year when a lot is coming in and not a lot is going out. 


Blogs To Follow For Black Friday Deals // I'm all about the deals. Honestly guys, I think pretty much everything I bought this year was either on sale or it was so incredibly cheap that it would never go on sale (like pens, soaps and things like that). I already have enough, so I don't buy anything that it's not discounted or at a very reasonable price. I stoped "splurging'' or "investing" in items, it doesn't matter if they're very good quality or not (you can still get good quality items on sale). So, don't go crazy on Black Friday but take advantage on the sale if there's everything you need or really really really want (we need to live a little, guys). 

6 Reasons To Avoid Shopping On Black Friday // Ok, so these links might contradict themselves but, again, you do you. If you want to shop and you have the money for it, shop! If you don't want to, don't! However, I would suggesting reading this before doing any shopping. It's so easy to get caught up on the Black Friday frenzy and just buy everything. It's important to take a step back, take a look on what you already have and them make an informed decision about what you're buying. 


That's it, guys! I hope you're all having a wonderful Friday and I hope you get all the Black Friday deals you had your eyes on. I really wish we had Black Friday here in Brazil the way you guys have on the US, maybe it's for the best because I'm broke. Anyway, let me know on the comments if you have any links to share with us and if you feel like it, leave the links to your latest posts, I'd love to check it out!


Do you have any links to share with us?
Did you get any good deals?

Let's chat!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 

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November 23, 2017

Thanksgiving // 50 Things l'm Thankful For.


Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

We don't celebrate thanksgiving here in Brazil, but I know a lot of people who read my blog do and I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to share some love and positivity. Wether you celebrate this holiday or not, we all have things to be thankful for. If you're this post right, you should already consider yourself very lucky because you not only have access to the internet but you also have an expensive device and the time to sit down and read my blog. Btw, thanks so much for doing that!

I don't want this to be preachy, I just want us to take a moment today to count our blessings and spread positivity, not matter where you are in the world right now. So, I'm gonna get the ball rolling and I'm gonna start by listing all the things I'm grateful for in my life and in the world. You can jump in on the comments anytime!

My life
My family
My friends
My education
My apartment
My cat
My computer
Volunteering
My blog
The people who read my blog
The people I've met through blogging
My sister's dogs
All the trips I've been on
Family memories
The ability to work out
My phone
Netflix
The person I am today
The ability to help others
Makeup
Wine
Chocolate 
Nutella
Coffee
Being able to afford the junk food I dearly love
My car
Living close to the beach
Having a supportive family
My parent's marriage
All my books
My kindle
Youtube
All the youtubers whose content I love
The bad days
The really good days
Podcasts that save me on the gym
The Harry Potter books
The Harry Potter movies
Disney World
Disney movies
The internet

I hope you have a wonderful day today. I'm challenging you to name as many things you're grateful for today as you can. The first 20 are quite easy, but after that you need to do a little digging and really think about your life. I think counting your blessings is a good thing to do whenever you're feeling down or lost. Centering yourself and thinking about only positive things really helps, it's also a great way to start meditating. 

What are you thankful for today?

Let's hang some more!


Thanks so much for reading and I'll talk to you soon! 




November 21, 2017

My Friday Night Date.


I thought a lot about writing this post, I even asked you guys on IG if you thought it was creepy to write about a date and some of you said yes, but I'm doing it anyway. I'm not gonna talk about specifics, I'm not gonna talk about the guy, where we went to or anything like. I want to talk about how I felt and some of the things that are going on in mind. 

I can feel you cringing, rolling your eyes and thinking: "what a looser.. is she really talking about a date on her blog?!". Yes, I am and I get it. I think it's a little weird too, but in case you missed my last post, I don't really care about what some people think and I really want to talk about this, so here we go!

First of all, this is not my first date in months or anything like that. I've been going on some dates here and there and trying really hard to meet people because.. well, I don't want to live with my cat for the rest of my life. I don't care what anybody says, wanting to meet someone to share your life with is not stupid or silly or needy. Humans need other humans - that's why we live in societies and whatnot. Yeah, I know stuff.. I read The Sapiens. 

However, this was the first date in months that I was excited about. The guys I've been meeting are just "not deep enough". I know it sounds stupid to describe people like that, but it's how it feels sometimes. They were always talking about shallow stuff, making fun of people that cared about something and just talking nonsense.. One guy even made fun of the fact that I was a vegetarian and kept shoving a burger in my face (he was joking but still..) That's why I kinda stopped going on dates. I became more selective. Before I thought: well, at least I'll get a good story out of it. However, the stories weren't worth it. 

So, when I met this guy I was already excited. We clicked real fast but things moved very slowly. When he asked me out (like really asked me out just the two of us), I was pumped. And not just because I was going out with a cute guy or getting attention, but because I felt like, for the first time in months, I was going out with a guy that had something to say. 

We didn't talk about international politics, the economy or philosophy.. But we didn't talk about going to parties, getting wasted and dating apps either. We talked about ourselves, our hobbies, the fact that I hate going to the gym and the new justice league movie. He told me his parents were born in Ireland and the entire family came to Brazil in 60's and I told him that my family has a weird obsession with Disney and my parents go to Disney World at least once every two years. We bonded over things we have in common and that was nice. 

The reason why I wanted to write this post is because I had a simple, normal date, right? We went out for dinner, had some drinks, talked about our lives and he dropped me off at my house at a reasonable hour. However, this normal date is not what normal is anymore. The guys I've been meeting (not just me, my friends too) are all so "weird" - I don't think our generation knows how to go on dates anymore. Asking a girl out for dinner and a movie feels like a "serious" date, like a boyfriend and girlfriend thing, so guys and girls end up asking people out to go to a bar or a party and just hang.. 

Like, I don't know how to hang. If I'm going on a date is because I want to talk to you and I want to know what you're all about. Do you have a job? Do you like to travel? Are you a murder? Are you into hard drugs? Do you have a crazy ex-wife that is going to find me on Facebook and try to friend me? That last one sounds insane, but it happens. People don't want to show interest and risk not being cool. Nowadays, cool means indifferent and finding a guy that doesn't believe in that is hard. The single ladies out there are going to agree with me, I'm sure. 

My Friday night date was fun, light and refreshing. We had good food and a good conversation. I don't know where things are going. I don't even know if we're going out again or not - our texts so far have been very chill and funny, no one mentioned anything about another date but that's not the point of this post. I guess I just wanted to vent and talk about the fact that most guys my age are very douchey and kinda shallow and going out with someone that wasn't was really, really nice.

If he finds out I have a blog, I'm screwed. Actually, maybe not. I said only nice things about the date. Just know that not everything was wonderful. There weren't any red flags, but we didn't see eye to eye on everything. Anyway, I'm just crossing my fingers he doesn't decide to google me. Let me know on the comments if you agree with the things I said. I'd love to know what you have to say about dating nowadays and if you'd like, you can share some stories with us!  

Do you agree?
Do you disagree?

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 

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November 20, 2017

Daily Mantras For A Better Week.

Happy Monday, everyone!


I hope you're all having a great start to your week and that you woke up feeling happy and excited about today and the week. I just woke up feeling sleepy and sore from my Sunday workout, but hey, we can get excited together right now. It is going to be a slow week for me (today is a bank holiday in my city), I can already tell, but I still have a lot to get done. 

I need to start planning my December posts (I feel like every blogger already has their December posts ready to go and I have no idea what I'm doing), I need to plan out my work outs and I desperately need to do laundry - I've been wearing the same dress for a week because all my jeans are dirty. Anyway, we're all busy, we're all getting things done, so let's get to the mantras! 
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THE MANTRAS

MONDAY // I allow great things to happen to me.

TUESDAY // What we do today is what matters most.

WEDNESDAY // Nothing is permanent. Good or bad.

THURSDAY // Trust your gut.

FRIDAY // With change comes opportunity.

SATURDAY // I honor my potential with every action.

SUNDAY // Now is as good a time as any. 

I hope you guys enjoy the mantras and I really hope they help you have a better and more productive week. Whenever you feel burned out, scared or anxious, take a breather.. Get a snack, drink some water or go for a walk and try to concentrate on one of these mantras. Say it to yourself over and over again and I dare you not to get pumped and excited about tackling your to-do list and get things done. Let me know on the comments what you guys have planned for this week so we can cheer each other on!



What's your favorite mantra this week?
What's on your to-do list today?

Let's hang some more!



Thanks so much for reading and I'll talk to you soon! 


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November 18, 2017

Why I (Sometimes) Don't Give A F*ck!

Heeello, everyone!


Today's topic is a bit weird, as you can guess from the title. This year has been a very interesting year for me. I've made a lot of personal changes: I quit my job, I tried yoga, I decided to become a minimalist, I started volunteering.. You might say I'm turning into a hippie without the dreadlocks and a lot of makeup - that's a joke, hippies are wonderful, you do you and love yourself. 

In this process of getting to know myself better and trying out new things, I've realized that I paid waaaay too much attention to what other people thought of me. If you've read my post about Living My Truth, you already know this but, just like a lot of people, I would lie in order to make them feel better and do all these little day-to-day things that would add up and make me feel not genuine and not like an overall nice person. Here I was lying to people in order to "be nice" or not hurt their feelings, but in the end that was affecting me in a negative way and it wasn't helping anyone. 

I decided to, of course, start telling the truth even when it wasn't convenient, but sometimes that would make me feel awkward and just, again, like not a very nice person. If a person asks you to go somewhere you don't want to go and you say no, they're bound to ask you why and if you're answer is "because I don't want to".. You're just gonna feel bad about it! So, I thought: well, I'm not feeling good telling the truth, but I'm also not feeling good lying, what to do? And the answer came to me through my wise, wise mom. She basically repeated in other words something I always say here on the blog: you do you. 

I'm doing the right thing. Telling the truth is universally known as the right thing to do, so why the heck do I need to feel bad about it? I can't feel responsible for other people's feelings just like I can't allow people to make me feel anything I don't want to feel. If me being honest upsets you, I'm sorry but I'm not gonna start lying and making up excuses. 

That's where not giving a f*ck comes in the conversation. If you're doing the right thing, if you're not trying to hurt people and if you're putting yourself first in situations where you should put yourself first, don't give a flying f*ck about what people think or do or say. Of course this doesn't apply to every situation. I'm all for giving f*cks to things that matter, like volunteering, caring about the environment, helping people whenever you can and just being nice on your everyday life. 

However, when it comes to limiting yourself because of what other people might think, not being true to yourself or stretching yourself thin in order to please others? I say f*ck that! Prioritizing your goals and your overall health is not wrong or selfish. Don't get me wrong, caring is awesome. We all should care more about ourselves, others, the environment, politics and all that good stuff in my opinion. On the other hand, sometimes, prioritizing you and caring about you should came first. You can't pour from an empty cup, right? 

What do you give a f*ck about?

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 



November 17, 2017

My New Blogging Strategy.


Heeello, everyone!



Today we're going to talk about a topic that's very new to me. I've never had a "blogging strategy", I just posted whenever motivation stroked but now that I'm trying to up my blogging game I feel like trying something new and I thought why not share it on the blog since this is going to be more of an experiment than anything else. 

As you can imagine, I have no idea what I'm doing. All of this is going to be based on trial and error, so you can expect many more "blogging strategy updates". This first post is just a starting point. All the points that I'm going to be talking about here are based on my personal experience as a blogger. I looked back on my "journey" as a blogger and I tried to think about the mistakes I made and also the things (I think) I did right. So, here we are! If you're a marketing professional or if you work with bloggers or something along those lines, please don't laugh at me. I know I need help. But, let's do this!
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Up My Social Media Game // Social media is one of the most challenging aspects of blogging to me because, again, I feel like I have no idea what I'm doing. My life is not "instragramable", I don't have a white room, with white marble and I don't drink boxed water or go to Starbucks every morning. I'm normal: I wake up, I work, I do laundry and if I'm not leaving the house that day I pretty much stay in my pjs. And also, I'm ok with that. However, I don't feel like Instagram is. I also don't feel like I have enough pictures to daily post. I don't know, guys. I know I'm sounding like a Debby Downer but it's just how I feel sometimes. I need to take Instagram 101 For Bloggers because I need some help. 
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Post More Frequently // I spent two months (Everyday September and Blogtober) posting every single day and my views have never been higher, which makes a lot of sense to me. I see a lot of people giving blog advice and saying that you shouldn't post everyday... I don't know, it makes you think how accurate some of those advice posts are. My main advice: always try things out for yourself when it comes to your blog. So, posting really often (the goal is everyday but you know how life is a bitch sometimes) is the main goal. But also posting good content, content I'm proud of.. Not just posting for the sake of posting. 
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Collab With Other Bloggers // I've been talking about collaborating with other bloggers for years now but I never got around to it. It's just that I never have good collab ideas, so if you're interested in a collab, let me know and we can work something out. I think this is a good way to not only connect with other bloggers and have some fun, but it can also help both parties. It's going to attract more views and introduce my readers to new bloggers that I love. Win, win!

Revamp Old Posts // I got this idea from Pinterest and I don't know why I haven't thought about this earlier. I've been blogging for four years so I have a ton of old content that I'm not particularly proud of (oooh, the typos and gramma mistakes!) but that has a lot of potential. Like cool post ideas, travel diaries and even some old life updates. I tried doing this a couple of months ago and I even got some posts updated (like this one and this one) but it was just too much work and I had a lot of other things going on so I decided to take a break. During the holidays I always manage to take some time off, so I really want to focus on doing that!

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Create Better Content // It's not that I'm not happy with the content I'm creating, this is just more of a guideline. I will always strive for better content and try to find ways to improve my blog - 'cause if I'm not, what's even the point of doing something, right? But what I think I really need to work on is my photographing skills. I have no skills in that area whatsoever, but I'm trying. The goal until the end of the year is to up my photo game.



This is everything I'm planning on doing to grow my blog - at least until the end of the year. Honestly, guys, I have no idea what I'm doing. This "strategy" is based on the things I've learned through years of blogging and a lot of time spent on Pinterest reading articles and other blogposts about this topic. I don't even know if you really need a blogging strategy but it doesn't hurt to try, right? If you have any advice to share about this, let's start a conversation on the comments. I could really use some help! 


Do you think it's important to have a blogging strategy?

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 


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November 16, 2017

Currently Reading // November, 2017.

Heeello, everyone!

I'm currently reading three books I'm obsessed about and I really wanted to share them with you guys because, unfortunately, this never happens. I never read more than two books at once and I never have three major hits at the same time. If you're an avid reader like me, you know that not every book you pick or you're excited about it going to be a hit. I've read some pretty bad/boring books this year, so hitting the jackpot three times in a roll is a rare occasion. 

Maybe the fact that one of them is a reread and another was written by one of my favorite authors there's something to do with it, I don't know.. Anyway, these books are good. Great actually. I would not only recommend reading them, but I would also recommend reading more books from these authors, which is why I really wanted to share them with you guys. Let's get to the books!
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History Is All You Left Me - Adam Silvera // I've been in the process of reading this book for months now because it's just too emotional. I pick it up, I read a couple of pages and then I start tearing up. This is such a sad and beautiful love story. The book alternates between the present and the past, kinda like a person remember the biggest love story they ever had, their most perfect moments to together and knowing that they'll never see that person again.. I know it's fiction, I know it's just a book, but it gets to me. However, this book is a masterpiece. I love Adam's writing and I cannot get enough. His first book, More Happy Than Not, was also amazing. I cannot recommend his books enough. 

It's Not Summer Without You - Jenny Han // This year I decided to reread The Summer Series and I'm still just as obsessed as the first time I read it, which was back in 2013. I remember I read the whole trilogy in one weekend, I just couldn't put those books down. You can check out my review for the first book here, but in this one we follow Belly after the summer that she turns pretty. She has to deal with real life problems, a lot of family issues and growing up. This books make me feel warm and fuzzy, I just love them so much. 

Lara Lamont's Life In Pictures - Emma Straub // This book was a pleasant surprise. I got it at The Dollar Store last year on a trip to the US and I've been putting it off ever since (you can check out that haul right here). Honestly, I'm just not a big fan of reading physical books, I much prefer ebooks.. It's just easier. I usually read right before bed or as soon as I wake up so it's easier to use my kindle in bed than a physical book. Anyway, this book is really good and really interesting. I've only read three chapters so far, but I'm really enjoying it. It's about this family that runs a theater during the summer, I'm loving the family aspect, the romance and the summer setting.


That's it! Those are all the books I'm currently reading. You guys know the drill, let me know on the comments what you're currently reading and if you have any recommendations for me to try based on these books - specially The Summer Trilogy. We're going into summer here in Brazil and I really want another beach house, YA romance to read by the pool or on the beach. I cannot get enough of summer books! 

What are you currently reading?!

Let's hang some more!

Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 

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November 14, 2017

Living My Truth And Why You Should Too.

Heeeello, everyone!


I've been thinking about writing this post for awhile, but I wanted to get my thoughts straight first. As cliché as it sounds, living my truth has been quite a liberating concept. It all started for me, like many things in my life, when I started implementing minimalism into my life. I started learning more and more about living with less and being smart about my money and my time. I discovered intentional living, the power of meditation, veganism and all that good stuff. 

As you can imagine, my life took quite a turn but I think the turning point was when I read The Life Changing Magic Of Tidying Up. I decluttered my entire apartment, from top to bottom, and that of course that included my wardrobe. I significantly reduced the amount of clothes, shoes and accessories I had and I started repeating outfits. A lot. People started noticing, specially my friends and family members and, at first, I was mortified when people joked about it.

I grew up going to the mall and shopping - I'm a 90's baby. Clothes and how I presented myself to people were (and still are) important things in my life so dealing with the "consequences" of repeating outfits was something really new to me. It took a lot of getting used to and self-acceptance. There wasn't a switch I flipped when I decided to become a minimalist and empowered me to embrace everything that comes with it. I've realize though that this more of an internal battle. 

You need to be ok with who you are and when that happens no one can make you feel anything you don't want to. Like I said, the journey was long and it's not over yet. I still have a lot to learn but I feel like I've come to a point where I can share some of the things I've learned along the way with you guys. If you're interested, let's get to it!
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Not lying to please other people // I think we have been conditioned to lie. Maybe because sometimes the truth hurts, maybe because we don't want to make people feel bad about something that's important to them. I don't really know and it's not my place to analyze society, I can only analyze myself and that's plenty. Lately, I've been noticing the amount of lies I tell - and it's quite a lot. They're not big lies, just little tiny white lies that have been weighing me down and making me feel kinda bad. 

No, I can't make it tonight because my mom needs me. Sorry, I can't remember my email right now. I'm wearing the same outfit because I slept at my friend's house. No, I can't go out with you because I have boyfriend (I don't have a boyfriend, guys). No, your boyfriend's band is awesome I just can't go to their show because it's my sister's birthday. You know what I mean? I'm kinda tired of that. I feel like sometimes we lie because it's just easier to end a conversation than tell the truth. People are not ready or are expecting to hear the truth. However, I don't own anyone anything and I'm done creating excuses if I 100% don't have to - like I wouldn't hurt my 80 year-old-gradma if I could avoid it.

By doing that, I started to realize why I didn't really want to do those things and what it's important to me. For example, going to bed early and waking up at a reasonable hour so I can work out is more important to me that pleasing you by going to your boyfriend's concert. Practicing minimalism and sometimes repeating outfits is more important to me than your opinion about what I'm wearing... And so it goes. I started caring more about the things that I cared about before and realizing that telling the truth is actually important for my mental health because I'm not ashamed of who I am or my choices. 


If I don't want to, I'm not doing it // If I don't feel like shaving, I don't. If I don't feel like going to your boyfriend's play, I won't. If I don't want to buy whatever it is you're selling, I won't. And I'm sorry for it. And I'm also not lying about it. Of course this doesn't apply to everything (like work and taking care of myself), just extra things that come up during the day. I know it might make me sound like a bad person, but if you really think about this is what we should be doing all along. I've realize that I don't need to please people or prioritize their feelings over mine. 

This has really helped me to reevaluate my choices. Like, do I want to vote on your little internet contest to help you win a trip to Bali? It's annoying but it will only take me 2 minutes and I might help you get an awesome trip, so yeah.. I kinda want to do that. On the other hand, do I want to shave just because people will feel uncomfortable seeing my hairy legs at the pool? No, I don't. You feel me? I've learned that I really care about helping people and that I also don't really care about what people think of me based on stupid little things. It took me quite sometime to get to this place. 
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Putting my principles first // This principle thing started with switching to cruelty-free products believe it or not. I used to shop a lot with my friends and whenever we went to makeup stores and things like the topic of me not buying something because it wasn't cruetly-free was always discussed and brushed off as something silly. 

It took awhile for me to realize that it wasn't something silly. Not harming animals, ethical shopping and being minimal are important things to me. They're principles I want to live by for the rest of my life and if that makes other people uncomfortable or feel bad about their own choices, I'm sorry but I'm not sorry. When you put your principles first, life gets a bit easier. Choices are simplified and you feel better about your actions. 

Staying true to myself // This came to my attention after I got single. After being on a relationship for more than two years, you forget that not every guys that comes in your life is going to be in synch with you or know your little quirks and habits. I I'm not a big drinker (I don't enjoy an occasional beer or two), I don't like mountain climbing, I don't like heavy drugs or being around people that are doing hard drugs, I don't like raves and crazy parties. I like going to the movies, going to a bar with my friends, I enjoy reading and going to the gym on the weekends. It took me 24 years and going on many dates to figure all of that out and I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not. 

I'm down with trying different things and I might even change my opinion about something. However, I know deep down what I'm comfortable with and what I'm not and I'm not going to force myself to stay in a situation that it's not me. I'm not going to agree to going to a rave just because a cute guy asked me. I know this sounds pretty straight forward and like a no brainer but when you're actually in the moment, facing a really hot guy that seems to really like you, it's hard saying no and going home to watch Netflix with your cat. However, I've said yes enough times to know that staying trie to myself is the best option. 
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Being nice // After reading everything you might be thinking: boy, Michele is turning into a real bitch! I promise I'm not. I'm actually really nice and I really enjoy helping people and encouraging them. I used to be really grumpy. I don't know why but I put into my mind that I wasn't a people person and that I was shy and awkward. I think it had to do with being an overweight teenager, but we can get into that on another post. Blogging is what really turned things around for me. 

I realized that I actually liked people and talking to them. I liked being around people that are positive and encouraging. And I liked helping people even if just by commenting on someone's post or twitting about their blog. Being nice became kind of a lifestyle to me and I slowly became less shy and a little more extrovert.

I think the internet (specially people that make money from the internet) glorifies being shy and not having human interaction. Our generation is becoming socially awkward as a whole - tweets like "I order pizza online to avoid human interaction" have millions of retweets. That might be a joke, but it's kinda true - I've found myself ordering food online a couple of times because I didn't feel like talking to people. And with that comes a lot of other issues, not being nice or knowing how to be nice in person comes with it. I know it because I experienced it. 


Having said all of that guys, I just want you to keep in mind that not everything is black and white. We all have bosses, grandmothers and parents we don't want to hurt by blurting out the truth. These are not ultimatums I gave myself, they're more like guidelines. The point of everything I just wrote is living a better life. These "guidelines'' help me and fit my lifestyles and personality. I came up with them by paying more attention to myself, my feelings and what really brings me joy. You do you. Just make sure you're actually doing something, like paying attention to your habits, the people around you and how you're actually doing. 

I hope this post sparks something in you. I hope it inspires you to pay attention to who you are and stay true to that person. You guys know that whenever I write posts like this reading your feedback is always the best part. Let me know on the comments what you think about, if you agree or disagree. I'd love to hear your thoughts!

How about you?
What are your truths?
Do you agree with me? Do you disagree?

Let's hang some more!


Thanks so much for reading and come back soon! 

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November 13, 2017

Blog Advice For New Bloggers.


Heeeello, everyone!

I have some free of charge blog advice for you today. Actually, I didn't want this post to be all about advice, I kinda wanted to start a conversation and see what you guys have to say since most of my readers are bloggers themselves. I've been blogging for four years and I've seen a lot since I've started my own blog. I think the blogosphere has changed a lot and I've been seeing a lot of things that I don't necessarily agree with. 

The amount to drama has increased, the amount of bloggers I trust has decreased and the amount of people creating a "fake" online life is just crazy. I don't know about you, but I can smell bullshit from a mile away on the internet. I see a lot of girls promoting products and brands that are not 100% honest or trustworthy and big bloggers exploiting their fan base by putting out products that are just not worth the money or promoting fit teas and hair vitamins. 


This is not the internet I signed up for. So, I wanted to come over here and chat about some of these things and maybe offer some advice to new bloggers. I say this is aimed at new bloggers because if you've been around for awhile, you probably already know all these things and are either on board with it or flat out ignoring it because you want to or because you don't agree with it. I'm a firm believe that you should always do you, boo. But if you're interested, here's what I have to say!  

STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF // It's incredibly tempting to create this online persona that  is everything you ever wanted to be in real life but couldn't. However, I would advice against it. I mean, there's no harm in amping up some of your best qualities - like people being extra-perky or extra-excited in your videos or blogposts. But some people take it to the next level - I've even seen a girl talking with a fake accent in her videos. People want the real you. If they wanted a fake character they would watch a movie or reality TV.

DON'T LIE // I think lying online is one of the easiest things to do nowadays. Everyone is doing it so if you get caught it won't be a big deal. Plus, it will start some drama. And  on the internet world, drama = views and views = cash money. The amount of "coming clean" or "telling you the whole truth" videos/blogposts out there is insane. Internet drama is a gold mine nowadays. However, I think you should stay away from the drama - specially if you're a new blogger. People are vicious online and once you start something there's no way of knowing how it will end - it might do you more harm than good in the long run. Plus, talking shit about people or "exposing" them is just mean and you don't need the bad karma - blogging is already hard as it is. 

CHECK THE NUMBERS BUT DON'T OBSESS OVER THEM // I've talked about this before on Twitter and on IG but never here. I know a lot of bloggers say "the numbers are not important'', but if we're all being honest here.. they kinda are important. In the real world, numbers get you brand deals, they get you money to pay your bills and they make you known for your work. We all put a lot of time and effort in our blog and our posts, so wanting to be recognized for it is not something to be ashamed of admitting. Guys, I really want to get recognized for the amount of hours I've put into this blog! Sue me!

However, I will agree that the numbers are not EVERYTHING. Blogging and just overall creating an online presence is so much fun because you get to connect with people. You get to talk to readers and followers from all over the world and keep up with their lives (in a not creepy way). It makes you feel like you're truly not alone.. So much so that you guys know more about my life than my "real life" friends. An example, the last life update.. Some of my friends didn't even know my grandma was in the hospital. 

I would say touching people's lives (I know it's cliche but just roll with it, ok?) is the most important thing. However, like I said, if you want to make a career and a name for yourself on the internet, you gotta pay attention to the numbers. It is what it is. Guys, if blogging is a job for some people and the numbers help them grow their business.. what is the problem with being paid and thinking about your brand or your business? 

IT TAKES TIME // It takes so much time to be successful in the blogging world is not even funny. I started my blog 4 years ago and I still consider myself a small blogger. I make very little money from it and I haven't landed a single brand deal - at least not one I would be willing to take. It takes a minute to get your blog out there and bond with your readers. But more than that, it also takes time out if your day. Like, when I'm being consistent and blogging everyday, I need at least 4 hours a day to dedicate to blogging and that includes writing posts, editing pictures, doing social media stuff, answering comments and emails. It takes a lot and if I'm being honest, most times, you don't get out of it what you put into it. Just being honest.  

IT HAS IT'S UPS AND DOWNS // I've met great ladies in this blogging journey, from all over the world, that inspire me everyday without them even knowing. Those kinds of things would the ups. However, I've come across some really shitty and weird people. People claiming they would start stalking me, people saying I was a slut for posting pictures of me on the internet and people even people offering to fly me to Russia free of charge (that was more weird than shitty). Those would be downs. Other downs include: feeling like you're not doing enough, feeling like your content sucks sometimes and feeling shitty for skipping an upload or not having time to blog. You just gotta roll with it. Life happens and when blogging is not your full-time job, sometimes it needs to be put on hold. 

DON'T SELL YOURSELF FOR CHEAP CHANGE // The amount of emails I've gotten from weird websites wanting me to promote their brands (which I'm pretty sure are schemes to still people's credit card info) is  insane. They want you to promote their website, write an extensive post about something you've never tried and doesn't even know if it works or not and include links to products you've never seen in your life for about 10-20 dollars. The highest offer from these types of brands I've gotten was 40 dollars. And the worst part is, I see a lot of bloggers promoting these brands and telling their readers to trust the website. 

Granted I don't know what kind of deal they have with these brands, I can only speak about my personal experience, but chances are they got the same or a very similar offer. So, just be careful. If an offer is legit, the person emailing you will be more than happy to accommodate some of your demands (when reasonable) to promote their brand. They will want you to share an honest review of their services or products and for you to do that they will provide you with said service or product. And also, if you're advertising brands or products you don't believe in people see right through that. If a blogger is promoting something, but she doesn't show you a picture of her wearing it or something like that.. that's sketchy AF. 

DON'T GIVE UP TOO EASILY // Like I said, it takes time and a lot of effort but it's not impossible. If it were impossible we wouldn't have big bloggers writing books, creating their own makeup lines and all that. However, there's very few at the top so you need to be prepared for anything. It's true that some people might not make it (just like in every career, look at the amount of waiters/actors or waiters/singers out there), but if you really really love it, I think you should at least try. Blogging is a very personal thing, some readers click with you and your writing style and some don't so there's no way of really knowing what will happen unless you give it a go!


That's all I have for now, guys! If you want more blog advice or tips on how to grow your online presence, you can check out these posts. Everyone has their own blogging journey, so don't compare yourselves to others. I know this is easier said than done but you need to try. Comparing yourself to other bloggers will only make you miserable and kinda jealous. Some people have their entire days to dedicate to their blogs, others buy followers or subscribers and some bloggers even pay people to rep them so they cut corners and get bigger faster. Honestly, aside from buying followers and whatnot, there's not a right or a wrong way to blog. Just do you and be consistent. You'll get there!


Do you agree with the tips?
Do you have any words of wisdom to share with us?

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Thanks so much for stopping by and I'll talk to you soon! 

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